Divorce is never easy. However, there are things that can be done during and after that can make it somewhat easier. There are also things that can be done during and after that can make it much more difficult. Sometimes, people do the latter without even knowing it.
How You Might Be Sabotaging Your Divorce
An article from Psychology Today details four of the ways that people often inadvertently sabotage their divorce. They include denial, dating too soon and not taking responsibility for the role they may have played in ending the marriage.
Interestingly enough, one of the methods of divorce sabotage described in the article is maintaining communication with an ex. The article suggests that it will be easier to heal and move on if you cease communication. Unfortunately, for parents going through a divorce, that is just not a realistic option. Parents will likely need to not only remain in communication, but stay on friendly terms, as they will be sharing the duties of raising the child. Perhaps, instead of ceasing communication entirely, the most effective approach is to set ground rules for communication.
The four methods of divorce sabotage mentioned in the article seem to be focused on the emotional side of things. They are actions that could jeopardize your emotional well-being as you go through a divorce or begin your life after a divorce. Overlooked are the ways that a person may accidentally sabotage the legal side of their divorce.
Examples of ways that you could sabotage your divorce from a legal standpoint and jeopardize the outcome of your case include:
Posting inflammatory messages about your ex on Facebook or other social media. This could end up reflecting negatively on you.
Saying negative things about your ex to your child. This could be considered parental alienation, attempting to alienate your child from your ex. This may backfire, not only in your relationship with your child, but in the courtroom.
Spending money poorly. People sometimes attempt to spend money on vacations or other things before the divorce, or even try to hide assets, because they are worried about not getting a fair division of property. If this comes to light, and it typically does, it could impact how property is divided.
Not enlisting a skilled divorce attorney. You have a relationship with your child that you need to protect, assets that you need to ensure are divided fairly and more. You want to make certain that you have someone on your side who is well-versed in Colorado family law, who handles these matters on a daily basis and who will protect your interests. Your attorney will counsel you on the right steps to take and advise you on any actions that may end up working against you. Your attorney can protect you from self-sabotage.