While there are many factors that can contribute to the breakdown of a marriage, there is one sign in particular that therapists and scientific research agree is number one in predicting that a divorce is eminent: hopelessness.
When All Hope Dies, The Marriage May End
According to an article from Business Insider, couples in a healthy marriage feel hopeful. They know that, even when there are bumps in the road, they are with the person who makes them happiest in the world.
On the other hand, when couples feel hopeless and believe they have done everything they can to save the marriage, the marriage is more likely to end. In fact, one study showed that couples who expressed hopelessness in their marriage were more likely to be divorced within three years. The article goes on to explain that couples who feel this sense of hopelessness are more likely to have given up and are not willing to put in the hard work that is often necessary to overcome turmoil and make a marriage succeed.
One issue that is raised is that one or both of the spouses in these situations may have had unrealistic expectations going into a marriage. Resetting expectations can make a big difference moving forward, as can overcoming hopelessness and being willing to do what is necessary to salvage a marriage. However, there are situations when a spouse has simply done everything they can to make it work, and the best path for both parties is to end the marriage and pursue a divorce.